Brains And Beauty: Why Smart Girls Are The Best To Date
There’s an old cliché about a girl with low intelligence being easier to seduce.
For some reason, guys think that the less deep or intellectual a woman is, the more susceptible she is to their advances.
Maybe it’s a matter of being gullible, or it’s just one of those old ideas that has no empirical or anecdotal evidence to back it up, but just seems like it makes sense.
It’s funny to think about, at best, and is probably a result of characters we see in movies or TV shows, where the beautiful blonde is portrayed as being dumb or not quite as smart as the rest of the people around her.
In this case, it’s not a huge stretch that guys might assume that the bimbo archetype is somehow easier to game or be on a date with.
It would seem that way, but when you actually go out with a lot of different girls, you’ll find that the opposite is true.
The smarter, more interesting and more accomplished a girl is, the easier it is for a man to connect with her. The reason is because an emotional connection starts with a deep conversation, one that is made up of profound ideas.
Both people need to be able to concentrate enough on what the other is saying and moreover, comprehend what is being said. The smarter a girl is, the more complex emotional topics you can talk to her about.
If she’s shallow, superficial and not too bright, it’s going to make connecting with her on an emotional level more difficult.
This is not a dig on girls being dumb or less intelligent than men — not by a long shot.
There are just as many dumb guys as girls out there, and the theory being discussed goes both ways.
Don’t expect to get a girl interested in you if you can’t hold a conversation with at least some topics that make the two of you think.
A challenging conversation with a woman that takes a little bit of brain power to traverse, is better than a shallow, intellectually bankrupt one because it isn’t small talk.
There’s nothing worse on a date, for both guy and girl than spending two hours talking about work or something you saw on the news.
A smart girl will understand the finer points of social dynamics because she’s observant, and has a solid understanding of the world around her.
It makes it easier to be fluid in conversation and lets you experiment with a whole spate of topics that might not go over too well with other girls who, say, bombed their SAT’s.
Maybe you find yourself lying next to each other on a beach under a starry night, and getting into a long discussion about mythology, the cosmos and whether or not there is life on other planets.
Or maybe you’re at a museum, and you both see a piece of art so beautiful that you have to talk about the reaction it stirs in the two of you.
Stuff like this is way more romantic and meaningful than being forced to talk about which emoji you like using best when you text, or what your favorite bubble gum flavor is, or why Snapchat is, like, totally more fun than Instagram.
The smarter a girl is, the more juice you can squeeze out of your time with her and the less time you have to waste talking about things that aren’t relevant to the two of you making a connection.
There is still a primal element to being with a woman, and physical attraction will never go away (thank god), but the luxury of being a human being is that we have access to complex ideas and emotions.
We may have sex like animals, but our modes of courtship are a lot different.
We appeal to each other’s minds just as much to each other’s bodies, and the more aware you are of this fact, the more you’ll start to see that a girl with two master’s degrees who speaks three languages, is way more fun to hang out with than one who doesn’t understand the difference between “they’re” and “their.”
There’s also something to be said about how attracting a woman should make you feel. It shouldn’t give you the feeling that you tricked someone into liking you because they aren’t the sharpest tool in the shed.
It should feel more like the girl is intelligent, knows what she wants and after a few hours, or a few dates has decided that she wants you. It’s not about “getting lucky,” or deceiving a woman into finding you attractive.
It’s about making an actual bond where both parties have a conscious informed decision about the other.
To approach your dating life from the mindset of trickery is a sign of low self-esteem, and assumes that you have to rely on a girl who isn’t bright to get laid or find a girlfriend.
If you have a healthy level of self-confidence, you’ll understand why a girl with a brain is better, and you’ll actually seek them out. You might even forgo an easy lay because the conversation wasn’t stimulating.
All things considered, you can’t assume a girl doesn’t have the capacity to hang intellectually until you’ve seen her a few times.
Just because we’re talking about the importance of intelligence here doesn’t mean you can suddenly pretend that you’re Neil De Grasse Tyson or that guy from Jeopardy who won for, like, a year straight.
Feel things out, and try to form a bond no matter what from the beginning. If you find that she’s not your type, then respectfully move on.
The point here is that the old paradigm about the naïve blonde archetype being easier to game than, say, the brunette who’s a neuro-physicist is dead.
Romance is by its very nature complicated and requires some thought to really understand, so if you’re looking for something tangible that isn’t necessarily a one-night stand, it pays to examine a girl’s mind just as much as you do her body.