Sometimes, the hardest part of dating is putting yourself out there to begin with. Rejection is never pleasant, and the fear of rejection can be enough to deter a man from even trying.
It’s rather interesting, if you think about it. We only fear being rejected when we meet a woman that we’re really interested in. The more attracted we are to her, the more we fear being rejected.
Rejection is just another word for failure. We fear failure when that which we are attempting to accomplish is very important to us. The more we want something, the more we fear failing at attaining that something.
Meaning, the more you want this woman, the more you’re going to fear her rejecting you. It’s only natural. What you have to accept is that unless you face your fears, face failure and rejection, you’re never going to get what you want in life.
That is the only logical conclusion. If you don’t go after what you want, you will never have it. I’ve been rejected plenty of times before, but it doesn’t deter me.
When you see something or someone that you want, you have to go after it. You have to pursue your ideal life, no matter how many times you get rejected or fail along the way.
Rejection doesn’t need to be difficult to deal with. You’re simply allowing yourself to accept your fear as the end of the road. But it doesn’t have to be… you can use that fear as a way of signaling to yourself that you need to act, that you need to pursue, that — at the very least – you need to approach.
Life is both incredibly complex, and stupid simple. It’s complex in the sense that there are countless moving pieces, working together in ways that we have yet to truly understand.
Yet simple in the sense that, as far as we’re concerned, our only real focus in life needs to be us ourselves.
We can try and understand all those little bits and pieces that make up the universe, but unless we understand ourselves and find it in us to control ourselves, we’ll never accomplish anything.
If you want to change the world, you first have to find it in you to change you.
The key to success, to happiness, to living a fulfilling life, is self-understanding and personal growth. If you aren’t working towards bettering yourself, then you aren’t living right.
In the end, our lives are little more than the personal journey each of us takes. Some travel far and wide, while others never leave the town they grew up in — never pushing their boundaries or stepping outside their comfort zones.
You need to take risks – calculated risks. How do you calculate risk? A simple cost-benefit analysis will do. What are you risking and what are you risking it for?
Is quitting your job and risking not being able to support yourself or your family, worth it if it means pursuing your dreams?
Is taking time away from your friends to introspect a bit and risking losing some of them, worth it if it means building greatness? Is risking getting rejected worth it, if it means finding the love of your life?
What risks in life are you willing to take? Because they will be what define you and your legacy – or lack thereof. The world can be a scary place; I’m not saying it isn’t. There are plenty of things that you should fear… but rejection isn’t one of them.
What’s the worst that could possibly happen? Even if she laughs in your face – which is very unlikely – at least you’ll learn what a bitch looks likes, so you can avoid them next time around.
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Women like men that are confident. Confidence, on the other hand, isn’t the result of lacking fear. Confidence is the result of overcoming your fears.
It’s being nervous, understanding that rejection is a possibility, and nevertheless pursuing her anyway. Believe me, she wants you to be a little nervous. It makes her feel special.
She wants a guy that she manages to knock off his feet, because it makes her feel empowered and beautiful.
So if anything, having a little fear of rejection will work out in your favor. But only if you manage to push yourself forward and make that first contact. Don’t wait too long, and don’t expect her to make the first move.
You’re a man, after all. Show her that you’re not just any man, but a man that knows what he wants, and then goes after it.
Rejection should be the last thing you fear… all it really is, is an opportunity to get your life a little closer to where you want it to be.
Now get out there and make things happen for yourself!