There has been an understandable emphasis made on the importance of being humble that, I feel, has cast an unfortunate shadow on its counterpart: Confidence.
Handshakes after the game. Smile when you lose, but not too much when you win — for one has to be weary of feelings of the loser.
Don’t dare mention your accomplishments, regardless of the work you put in to acquire them. All because we must not offend.
Humility is an important lesson to learn young. Lifting the weight of one’s own ego is handled best when of age. So sportsmanship in little leagues and playground activities is imperative.
But when we encourage shying away from celebrating yourself, it endangers cooling the embers of ambition.
There are perks to being cocky. It’s like a reward. When you put the time in, the work in, and the sacrifice, it’s almost like a right to hoist the shield of your pride. Not to mention the doors your natural confidence opens.
You cannot go anywhere you do not see yourself going. So when the young Kevin Durant wrote on his paper in class as a student that he was going to play in the NBA, it came true.
Could you say that was cocky of him, to assume that he was better than any one that has ever came out of his class or family? Possibly, but look where it landed him.
If nothing else, confidence teaches you not to second guess yourself and to trust yourself even after you make a mistake. Often when we make mistakes we freeze.
We second guess our movements and we mistrust our judgement, making progress more elusive. When you’re cocky you bet on yourself every single time.
In football terms: If a quarterback throws an interception, either one of two things can happen. They will either be so deeply haunted by the mistake that they will make their game more conservative, possibly hindering the offense.
Or the quarterback will have a short memory, learn from the pick and continue to throw like he never threw a pick in the first time, like the cocky son a bitch that he is.
Cockiness stems from confidence, one is a byproduct of the other. Society often dismisses any outward expression of confidence, but you ultimately need this cocksureness to succeed.
You know who is cocky? Winners are cocky. I think Ali, I think Shaq, I think Conor McGregor, and I see individuals who are proud.
Proud of the rigorous hours of training, proud of their commitment to their craft, proud of the moment it all comes together for them. All have been to the mountain top of their perspective professions, all have stated claim to their greatness, and all have come under fire for doing so.
It’s sad to think that someone can be condemned for believing in themselves. When Ali yells “I am the greatest” was he lying? Yet people hated him for the way he spoke about himself.
Instructors at Confidence Building Courses report that people with healthy self-confidence are generally happier and more satisfied with their lives than people who lack self-confidence.
Confidence can help you to take on the world with more energy and determination, resulting in better relationships, quality work, and a feeling of being connected with your surroundings according to Livestrong.com.
When someone achieves something special, such as a goal they’ve been tasking tirelessly to accomplish, they’re free to react how they want.
When you are supremely confident you have a secure handle on your emotions and behaviors. When you’re confident you feel good about yourself and knowing that your place in the world is important and meaningful.
You become Attractive
Confidence is infectious and draws people in, partially because it’s a trait that not too many possess.
There’s a reason that confidence is one of the most sought after traits women seek in men.
When you trust in yourself and in the abilities you’ve dug deep down to discover, you’re going to want to share that with everyone, even if you do so subconsciously. It’s natural.
When you post a body selfie of your abs, it’s not necessarily because you’re self-absorbed, as it is so much that you’re proud at what you were able to accomplish.
When you feel good about yourself it shows. It shows in your language, how you walk, and your overall disposition.
Opposed to someone who has a more negative, gloomy attitude, the energy you attract will do nothing more but make you happier and motivate you more.
All things should be taken in moderation, including your confidence level. The last thing you need is your ego becoming too much to bear. But at the same time that does not mean that we should discourage showmanship and pride.
Try being cocky for a day. I dare you. Let your humbleness down just a little and see how you begin to carry yourself.
Witness how your thought process changes: maybe you want to hit a dance move, maybe you feel like asking a girl out, who knows?
One thing is for sure, and it’s that when you are cocky, it’s usually because you have something to be cocky about. And that’s alright.